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If you’re feeling uncertain about your relationship, questioning whether to stay or leave, or wondering what your next chapter could look like, you don’t have to navigate it alone. I work with people in midlife who are at a relationship crossroads — whether you’re trying to understand what’s happening within your relationship, considering separation, rebuilding after one, or beginning to think about dating and re-partnering. Together, we create the space to pause, understand what’s really going on, clarify what you want, and move forward with greater confidence and intention.

Nga Mihi,

Kirstin Murray.

Ending a long-term relationship can turn your world upside down - especially in midlife. You may be experiencing grief, confusion, loss of identity, or uncertainty about what comes next. The first year can feel particularly overwhelming as you try to find your footing again and make sense of who you are now.

This is a time for healing, reflection, and rebuilding. It’s about understanding what you’ve learned from your relationship, releasing emotions and beliefs that no longer serve you, and rediscovering your sense of self. New interests, new passions, and a renewed sense of confidence can emerge - but it takes time, care, and support.

When it comes to dating again, many people feel unsure or unprepared. Online dating can feel daunting, with countless apps and mixed messages. You may be asking yourself: Am I ready? Have I done the inner work? How do I move forward with confidence and clarity?

You don’t have to navigate this alone.

I support people who are healing after the end of long-term relationships to rebuild confidence, reconnect with who they are now, and feel emotionally ready to date again. Together, we work to gently streamline this process - so you feel grounded, clear, and confident as you move forward and open yourself to a new relationship that truly aligns with you.

I bring both professional training and lived experience to this work, having navigated my own separation after a 30-year relationship. My approach is compassionate, practical, and deeply respectful of where you are on your journey.

Warmly,

Kirstin Murray

Diploma in Counselling & Pyschology

Certified Life Coach

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MY COACHING METHOD

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    REFLECT

    Explore your relationship history, emotional triggers and attachment patterns so you can understand yourself and why certain dynamics may repeat.

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    RELEASE

    Work through unresolved emotions, grief and fear, creating space to let go of what no longer serves you rather than carrying the past into your next chapter.

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    REDISCOVER

    Rebuild your sense of self, values and boundaries so you can move forward with greater confidence, emotional safety and clarity about the relationships you want.

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